Rodriguez-Albizu Group http://www.rodriguezalbizugroup.com Miami, Florida Psychologists, Relationship & Family Counseling, Life Coaching Fri, 06 Oct 2017 14:35:30 +0000 en-US hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=4.4.13 Tips for a Stress-Free Holiday Season http://www.rodriguezalbizugroup.com/tips-stress-free-holiday-season/ http://www.rodriguezalbizugroup.com/tips-stress-free-holiday-season/#comments Tue, 02 Dec 2014 01:01:41 +0000 http://www.rodriguezalbizugroup.com/?p=1078 The holidays are a time for joy, togetherness, and to celebrate the traditions we most cherish. However, the holidays can also be overwhelming and stressful, due to a large extent to the many self-imposed and external expectations we decide to fulfill. Have you taken a moment to ask what you wish to get out of […]

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enjoy_life-The holidays are a time for joy, togetherness, and to celebrate the traditions we most cherish. However, the holidays can also be overwhelming and stressful, due to a large extent to the many self-imposed and external expectations we decide to fulfill. Have you taken a moment to ask what you wish to get out of this holiday season? How about challenging the premise that we must fulfill expectations and that rather, we should focus on bringing personal meaning to this very special time of the year? Below are several tips to help you stress less and enjoy the spirit of the holiday – it’s your choice.

       1.  Plan and prioritize.

What HAS to happen? What is optional?  STOP trying to please everyone. This is impossible!   When you start making a list of scheduled holiday events and tasks (and please do check it twice), try to find things you can eliminate.  Don’t fill the Season with so many activities. Less events will mean more time to enjoy with those who are most meaningful to you. Saying no to less important events will free up time for you and your loved ones.

      2.   Get your family’s input.

What traditions matter most to you and your family? Have you asked them? We have a tendency to assume too much, or think that we know what everyone enjoys most and expect. Try to stick to the traditions that are truly meaningful to you and your loved ones and skip the ones that are not. And do yourself a favor — do ask for their help in making the Holidays special. No need to take on everything on your own. Protect your time and energy. Use those business strategies that work so well and delegate. You may be surprised to learn what others would gladly take on because they enjoy it so much – like helping to trim the tree, bake and decorate cookies, wrap gifts (not their own, of course),  or do some of the shopping!

      3.   Limit your social media time.

According to Facebook, Instagram, and Pinterest postings, it seems like everyone in the country is obsessed with picture perfect holidays and plenty of painstakingly crafted gifts, decorations and desserts.  Don’t fall into this trap! Holidays are for building family memories, not proving to Facebook friends that you are a budding Martha Stewart. It isn’t necessary to make individual place setting labels, homemade napkin rings, and a beautiful “table-scape”.  Don’t let social media suck you into the “competitive” side of the holidays.  Your family loves you and wants to spend time with you, and will gladly forego the “perfect” table setting in exchange for enjoying “personal” time together.

      4.   Let it go.

It is impossible to make everyone happy.  There will always be that one grumpy aunt/uncle/cousin/sibling who is never pleased.  Accept that fact, and move forward. While it is worthwhile trying to find a harmonious middle ground, sometimes this is not possible. Make a treaty with family members and/or friends with whom you have differences, and set a later time (after the holidays) to address conflicts. And for those who can’t compromise, accept that you tried, and then don’t worry about it anymore!

       5.   Practice ‘mindfulness’ several times each day.

Stay focused and enjoy what you are accomplishing and experiencing every day. A great deal of our stress comes from wishing things were different. Be especially aware of the “should haves, could haves, if only I would have.” Decide to be aware of your present experiences, and “view” them in a non-judgmental way. Stop the self-criticism. Rather than replaying scenes from our past, anticipating the future, or ruminating about a specific occurrence, practice becoming keenly aware of the present moment and enjoy them as fully as you can (with emphasis on ‘enjoy’).

        6.  Have a camera ready.

Since you are already focusing on enjoying the moment and in creating memories, capture them!  Your family will appreciate having the photographs to remind them of the fun filled holidays. And make sure you order prints and place them around the house! Don’t let your memories get lost in the data stored on your computer. Looking back over the photographs throughout the next year will remind you that with a little planning and prioritizing, you can enjoy another memorable and fun holiday in the future.

Whatever you choose for your holidays, remember that the focus should be on enjoying this special time of the year, and in creating memories with your loved ones and spending time with them.  This time of the year is meant to be fulfilling and filled with love. Just as there are no perfect people, there are no perfect holidays.  Just keep your attitude positive and focus on cultivating meaningful relationships and special moments with loved ones. Cheers!

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Five Tips to Succeed in a Relationship-driven World http://www.rodriguezalbizugroup.com/five-tips-succeed-relationship-driven-world/ http://www.rodriguezalbizugroup.com/five-tips-succeed-relationship-driven-world/#comments Tue, 11 Nov 2014 00:31:31 +0000 http://www.rodriguezalbizugroup.com/?p=1063 Relationship skills are not just important in our personal lives.  People with good interpersonal skills are usually perceived as optimistic, calm, confident and charismatic – qualities that are endearing and appealing to others.  Better relationship skills can benefit all aspects of your life, yet we often find it difficult to get along and relate well […]

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Relationship skills are not just important in our personal lives.  People with good interpersonal skills are usually perceived as optimistic, calm, confident and charismatic – qualities that are endearing and appealing to others.  Better relationship skills can benefit all aspects of your life, yet we often find it difficult to get along and relate well with others. Counseling, psychology and/or life coaching can serve as great resources to assist you in strengthening or developing new skills and considering new ways in which you can enjoy rewarding relationships. Nevertheless, there are several steps you can take on your own to improve the quality of your relationships.

 1. Relax!

Have you ever caught yourself trying to explain something while nervous? You’ll notice that your speech speeds up.  Talking more quickly means there’s a good chance you’ll be harder to understand.  This, combined with tense body posture, can be off putting to people around you.  Instead, try to stay calm, make eye contact and smile.  Confidence alone makes you appear more knowledgeable and trustworthy, and certainly more approachable.

2. Listen Intently – Practice the Basics

I’ve known enough teachers to know that they are excellent at making sure they are heard and understood.  Many of us in the adult world have a tendency to forget active listening. Take your brain back to kindergarten and remember these basic rules: listen, repeat, respond.  When you take the time to actively listen, those around you feel more comfortable and relaxed.  Relationship experts and psychologists are familiar with this trick too.  An excellent way to put it into practice is repeating a statement or question back to the person you are interacting with, like this: “You are right. I did not take your feelings into consideration, and I feel bad that this has upset you because I care about you. Can we talk about this?”  Not only does this give the other person a sense of validation, but it gives him or her proof that you are interested and invested in the conversation.

3.  Be respectful

When it comes to successful relationships, respect is key.  You are not required to agree with everyone, but respecting differences in opinions makes relationships run much more smoothly. Treat others with care and kindness, even when feeling frustrated or annoyed. Empathy can go a long way in making others feel comfortable communicating with you.

4.  Watch your words

A sure way to cause relationship friction is assuming that someone else understood a hint or implication (or worse yet, that others can practice “mind reading”).  No one lives in your brain except for you and, most of the time, others need somewhat of a road map to follow your thought process.  Instead of saying, “I sure hope that someone remembers to buy more coffee for the office”, simply ask and inquire with your colleagues who will take on this task.  And remember, if you disagree with an idea, avoid attacking the person, and instead focus on the concept. Done politely, this will help prevent misunderstandings, resentments, and frustrations.

5.  Be aware of your body language

Listening and speaking are only two aspects of communicating.  Make it a point to practice effective unspoken social cues as well.  Your demeanour, attitude, and body posture speak volumes about your approachability.  Having a friendly smile and a relaxed body posture makes it so much easier for others to approach you.   People are much more likely to be drawn to you if you can maintain a positive attitude.

We live in a relationship driven world.  Successful communication improves all relationships, including those with our spouses/partners, our nuclear and extended family members, our friends, and certainly in the workplace.  Good communication relies on our ability to listen with intent, effectively and clearly express ourselves, and to show respect and empathy for others. Apply these tips to communicating with all the people in your life, and enjoy the benefits of having successful interactions.

Interested in improving communication and relationship skills? Contact us about our free consultation!

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Mobilizing your Mind: 14 Key Strategies for Success http://www.rodriguezalbizugroup.com/strategies-for-success/ http://www.rodriguezalbizugroup.com/strategies-for-success/#comments Mon, 19 Aug 2013 04:00:21 +0000 http://www.relationshipsforgrowth.com/?p=96 We are constantly searching for strategies for achieving success. We read books, blogs, newspaper articles, magazines, and everything else we can put our hands on to learn how to “crack” the code for achieving success. The bottom line is that success is a state of mind. Success is about creating a mind set that guides […]

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Mobilizing your Mind, Key Strategies for Success

We are constantly searching for strategies for achieving success. We read books, blogs, newspaper articles, magazines, and everything else we can put our hands on to learn how to “crack” the code for achieving success. The bottom line is that success is a state of mind. Success is about creating a mind set that guides our thinking and behavior in a very deliberate manner towards realizing the results we want to achieve, in relation to the goals we have established for ourselves – whether for self-improvement, professional growth, enhanced social relations, educational aspirations, financial objectives, healthy behaviors, etc.

You’ve most likely have heard that “attitude is everything.” I feel confident that these key strategies for success will have a significant impact on your attitude and state of mind if you put to them to work – with consistency. Invest in yourself. You are worth it!

14 Key Strategies for Success

  1. Have an attitude of gratitude: Motivational guru Zig Ziglar, constantly reminds himself and others that “The more you recognize and express gratitude for the things you have, the more things you will have to express gratitude for.” Giving thanks brings immense joy, and opens ones heart and mind to new possibilities.

  1. Work hard no matter how bad the job is and do it better than anyone else:  Adhere to nothing but the highest standards in your work. Don’t allow the negativity of others to influence how you relate with your colleagues and customers. Always deliver your best.

  1. Stop, reflect, and ask yourself “Why am I working so much?”:  Make constructive use of your time and ensure a balanced home and work life. It is not about quantity – IT IS about quality. A tired mind no longer focuses on the pleasure of reaching the goal and instead becomes discouraged. And when a particular project comes along that requires a larger investment of energy and time, do include in your “project schedule” periodical rest and renewal activities to carry you through.

  1. Dress and walk with joy:  How you dress, how you walk and how you carry yourself all contribute to a different mindset. How you feel about yourself will change your state of mind. So pay attention to how your attire makes you feel, and make the necessary changes that make you indeed feel like a million bucks (and no need to spend that kind of money!).

  1. Read, read, read:  Learn constantly, and be an avid reader. “Leaders are readers, but not all readers are leaders.” It is true that learning is a motivator, but the education and inspiration you gain from reading is invaluable.

  1. Surround yourself with great people and avoid toxic relationships:  Avoid relationships that discourage success and bring you down. Other people’s words or deeds can influence our view of ourselves and directly affect our ability to succeed. So surround yourself with positive successful people that inspire and encourage you!

  1. Change your mindset from “why should I?” to “why shouldn’t I?”:  If you are continually demonstrating negative or pessimistic attitudes, even if you think it is a way to remain realistic, you will drain yourself of energy, which could potentially lead to losing motivation and giving up. Instead practice positive thinking and maintaining the kind of attitude that you know successful people use throughout the day. As Henry Ford once said, “If you think you can or think you can not—you are probably right.” A positive attitude almost always breeds positive results, but a negative attitude will do just the opposite.

  1. Don’t’ fear failure and take risks:  Really, ask yourself, “So what’s the worse that can happen?” Failure is not to be feared; rather it should be something to learn from. Re-assess what did not work well, discover a better way of doing it, and don’t make the same mistake twice. Successful people do whatever it takes to overcome obstacles. Even when we succeed we should be thinking if there is even a better way of accomplishing our goals. Don’t let fear hold you back, or even worse, paralyze you. Remember, “When we think of failure, failure will be ours.”

  1. Enough already! Get real and stop complaining:  Stop being a victim or martyr and stop making excuses why you can’t succeed. Check your mindset and attitude regularly and avoid procrastination. Rather, identify your strengths and discover your opportunities for improvement, over and over again. There is always room for improvement. So say it to yourself – no whining allowed!

  1. Let those endorphins loose!: Research shows that laughter, in addition to making life fun, keeps us healthy, positive and happy. Researchers believe that true laughter causes the abdominal muscles to repeatedly contract, triggering endorphin release, resulting in a “good feel” effect. So keep a good sense of humor and relieve stress while improving your mood.

  1. Live success in your mind and avoid poverty thinking:  Envision yourself being successful – how does it feel? What do you hear? Where and with whom do you see yourself? You were born to be successful, period. Keep this present in your mind all the time. You become what you think about most of the time, hence the importance of maintaining a positive state of mind. All we need to do is to want to achieve something great, and then simply do it. It’s all about YOU!

  1. “Feel” the energy:  Successful leaders possess the skills/competencies and practice those leadership strategies that allow them to “feel, hear, and see” beyond the obvious. Non-verbal behavior can send powerful messages, negative or positive. The choice is yours.

  1. Be “fully” present:  Give respect, gain trust, and don’t dampen the enthusiasm of yourself or others. People do matter, and sharing a piece of your time with them can be life changing for both of you.

  1. Be tenacious, don’t give up, and be tough:  Every day you must apply 100% focus and nothing else. You have to fight for what you believe in. There are few things of worth that are easy to achieve. Never lose sight of your dream and do what you must do to get what you want to get, because no one is going to do it for you.

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