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Five Tips to Succeed in a Relationship-driven World

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Relationship skills are not just important in our personal lives.  People with good interpersonal skills are usually perceived as optimistic, calm, confident and charismatic – qualities that are endearing and appealing to others.  Better relationship skills can benefit all aspects of your life, yet we often find it difficult to get along and relate well with others. Counseling, psychology and/or life coaching can serve as great resources to assist you in strengthening or developing new skills and considering new ways in which you can enjoy rewarding relationships. Nevertheless, there are several steps you can take on your own to improve the quality of your relationships.

 1. Relax!

Have you ever caught yourself trying to explain something while nervous? You’ll notice that your speech speeds up.  Talking more quickly means there’s a good chance you’ll be harder to understand.  This, combined with tense body posture, can be off putting to people around you.  Instead, try to stay calm, make eye contact and smile.  Confidence alone makes you appear more knowledgeable and trustworthy, and certainly more approachable.

2. Listen Intently – Practice the Basics

I’ve known enough teachers to know that they are excellent at making sure they are heard and understood.  Many of us in the adult world have a tendency to forget active listening. Take your brain back to kindergarten and remember these basic rules: listen, repeat, respond.  When you take the time to actively listen, those around you feel more comfortable and relaxed.  Relationship experts and psychologists are familiar with this trick too.  An excellent way to put it into practice is repeating a statement or question back to the person you are interacting with, like this: “You are right. I did not take your feelings into consideration, and I feel bad that this has upset you because I care about you. Can we talk about this?”  Not only does this give the other person a sense of validation, but it gives him or her proof that you are interested and invested in the conversation.

3.  Be respectful

When it comes to successful relationships, respect is key.  You are not required to agree with everyone, but respecting differences in opinions makes relationships run much more smoothly. Treat others with care and kindness, even when feeling frustrated or annoyed. Empathy can go a long way in making others feel comfortable communicating with you.

4.  Watch your words

A sure way to cause relationship friction is assuming that someone else understood a hint or implication (or worse yet, that others can practice “mind reading”).  No one lives in your brain except for you and, most of the time, others need somewhat of a road map to follow your thought process.  Instead of saying, “I sure hope that someone remembers to buy more coffee for the office”, simply ask and inquire with your colleagues who will take on this task.  And remember, if you disagree with an idea, avoid attacking the person, and instead focus on the concept. Done politely, this will help prevent misunderstandings, resentments, and frustrations.

5.  Be aware of your body language

Listening and speaking are only two aspects of communicating.  Make it a point to practice effective unspoken social cues as well.  Your demeanour, attitude, and body posture speak volumes about your approachability.  Having a friendly smile and a relaxed body posture makes it so much easier for others to approach you.   People are much more likely to be drawn to you if you can maintain a positive attitude.

We live in a relationship driven world.  Successful communication improves all relationships, including those with our spouses/partners, our nuclear and extended family members, our friends, and certainly in the workplace.  Good communication relies on our ability to listen with intent, effectively and clearly express ourselves, and to show respect and empathy for others. Apply these tips to communicating with all the people in your life, and enjoy the benefits of having successful interactions.

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Dr. Teresa Albizu About Dr. Teresa Albizu

Dr. Teresa Albizu is the Founder & Co-President of the R-A Pinnacle Group. Formerly, Dr. Albizu served as a higher education leader for over 20 years, held a faculty appointment teaching courses in Marriage and Family Therapy, and maintained a private mental health practice focusing on relationship issues. She is an alumna of the National Hispana Leadership Institute (NHLI), the Harvard Kennedy School of Government’s Executive Education Program, and the Center for Creative Leadership’s Leadership Development Program. Dr. Albizu currently serves on the Advisory Board of the ELLA Leadership Institute, a training and consulting center designed to advance the lives, careers and leadership of women. Dr. Albizu possesses a Doctor of Education (Ed.D.) degree in Higher Education Leadership from Nova Southeastern University. She obtained a master’s degree in Marriage and Family Therapy from Carlos Albizu University, completing her clinical practicum at the University of Miami’s Mailman Center. Her Bachelor of Science degree in Psychology is from Florida State University. She is a native of Puerto Rico and is bi-literate in both Spanish and English. View full bio »

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